Posts tagged ‘Sharisse Anne Sifuentes’

December 16, 2011

How powerful is a smile?

I’m going to walk to the bridge. If one person smiles at me on the way, I will not jump.

In the 70’s a man left this note on his bureau.  After the walk from his home to the Golden Gate bridge, he jumped.

While we cannot know if he willingly caught people’s eye on his way, he consciously wrote that a smile would change his actions.  Is it possible that this 2 second act can create change for another and ourselves?

How often do we go about our busy schedules unaware of those around us?  We may be intent to get our grocery shopping done quickly, avoiding eyes with the veteran holding a sign at a stoplight, or involved in whatever our lives are full with at that moment.

What would it take to engage the 12 facial muscles used in smiling?  What might it create?

When we smile at someone, what is happening at a soul level? Could it communicate “You are a person just like me; I recognize and respect you;  I value you.”? Are we making a human connection that closes our separateness, even for a moment?  (Robert I. Simon)

I have a practice of actively greeting those that cross my path.  Most often it is with a smile and a hello.  If I am able, I like to ask how someone’s day is going, intent on really listening to their response.  While it’s simple, I enjoy interacting and seeing how people respond.  Often I see a glimmer of surprise, followed by a genuine smile in return.

Perhaps smiles are contagious?

Note: Every culture has their own interpretation of how connection is formed. If not with a smile, perhaps there is another way of recognizing another’s intrinsic value?

Just a Smile and a Hello on the Golden Gate Bridge by Robert I. Simon for The American Journal of Psychiatry, VOL. 164, No. 5
Jumpers by Tad Friend for The New Yorker Smile

December 16, 2011

Thursdays at Vera

While I still have more work towards certification and anticipate future community events, yesterday marked the last day of my wellness coaching classes at Vera Fitness. As with the end of many classes, it strikes me how quickly it is possible to connect with others. It seems that a positive, intentional learning environment allows those participating to relax into accessing more of themselves; This may come through playful jokes, honest revelations, and many other forms. What a beautiful experience it is to participate in authentic expression and insight.

I am excited to continue in this wellness community, grateful that my fellow coaches are fabulous, intentional beings I would love to work with.  The quality of education and interaction is an invaluable investment. I am still awed at how this course has shifted my view of wellness, my personal interactions, and has altered my entire career path.

I entered Wellness Coach Training with an intention to bring coaching skills and greater communication to my current bodywork sessions. I could not have anticipated how I love the pure discovery process. To support someone through exploration of what they want to create in their lives, what motivates them, and then support them in actively stepping towards their tangible vision is an honor.

Wellness coaching is the foundation for change in so many ways.

December 12, 2011

“If we resist our passions, it is more through their weakness than from our strength”

François de la Rochefoucauld

As individuals we are unique in how we perceive and interact with the world.  Our relationship with our personal core values fuels every choice.  Even beneath the same action is a different “why” for each of us.

As a coach, my intention is to support clients in discovering their motivating values and connect that passion to what they want to create in life.  We capture this in a vision statement; each phrase compelling action towards self-defined wellness.  This living document is a personal call to action.

The quote above implies inaction is a lack of passion.  As the client embraces life in a new way their vision statement shifts as well.  If change is not happening within multiple coaching sessions, we consider if the vision is truly compelling; If it is, what strengths and tools might be used to motivate the client towards that vision.

While a coaching relationship is incredibly powerful, creating your own wellness vision can clarify which actions you choose to support your own wellness.  This is the beginning of a series of exploratory posts to develop a greater understanding of your values, your relationship to them, discovery of your goals, and how your core values can motivate you to create change in your life.

All of these will be viewable through this link:

I welcome your comments and questions.

November 27, 2011

Stress relief with the 4 A’s

“Reduce stress” seems to have become a standard prescription from health care practitioners.  While science is still discovering the effects of modern “stress” on the body, studies are consistently implicating long-term health risks.  A Google search of “stress reduction” brings up over 12 million hits.

After reading through a few, I came across a Mayo Clinic article describing practical tools for stress reduction. While each topic could be explored in great depth, I enjoyed the conciseness of this article. I have included a teaser of the four key points below.

Need stress relief? Try the four A’s: Expand your stress management tool kit by mastering these four strategies for coping with stress: avoid, alter, accept and adapt.

Avoid: A lot of needless stress can simply be avoided. Plan ahead, rearrange your surroundings and reap the benefits of a lighter load.  (Just remember: A certain amount of avoidance is healthy, but some problems cannot be overlooked. For those situations, try another technique.)

Alter: One of the most helpful things you can do during times of stress is to take inventory, then attempt to change your situation for the better.

Accept: Sometimes we have no choice but to accept things the way they are.

Adapt: The perception that you can’t cope is actually one of the greatest stressors. That’s why adapting — which often involves changing your standards or expectations — can be most helpful in dealing with stress.

Need stress relief? Try the four A’s by Mayo Clinic Staff from the Mayo Clinic